Holy Family of Jesus Mary and Joseph
(December 27, 2009)
“Whoever obeys his father brings comfort to his mother”
Scriptures: Sirach 3: 2 – 6, 12 – 14; Ps 84; Col. 3: 12 – 21; Lk 2: 41 – 52
Theme: The very ‘natural’ revelation of God’s love in the family if of Christ.
Introduction: Today we hear Jesus speak for the first time in his own voice, in his own words. Jesus is slowly coming of age and developing some convictions. It is true that the age of 12 was the entering of a young man into adulthood as regards the Jewish Torah in which he would be schooled for basic living knowledge or greater mastery of God’s will in order to teach others. Jesus is God’s Son; he does not obey all natural and customary laws as the gospels try to teach us, yet he appears to be like all boys of his age. Mary and Joseph, who, like us focus on Jesus, are parents like all parents, giving the best they have and know to their child, with great love on their part. Like all parents, they cannot comprehend all the desires and inner world of their child. The call is therefore to do our best and give from our heart. God will take care of all the rest. That trust in God’s fulfilling his own law in the heart of a child is also part of being a parent as Scripture teaches us today.
(1) A Normal Family
The Holy Family is foremost a very normal family. They live by the Jewish piety of going every year to the Passover celebration in Jerusalem. We all know that the Passover is the symbolic beginning of the Jewish faith in God’s love and commitment to his people. The going out of their homes and villages to the temple added a surplus of sensitivity to the desert journey for those who came from a distance, like Mary and Joseph coming from Nazareth in the North. The prayers, rituals and gift offerings in the temple are part of the formation of a community dedicated to God. The family is the basic unit of this community of God-lovers. Like our own context shows, Mary and Joseph were kind of geographical ‘inter-racial’ couple, yet both related to David’s house, hence from the same tribe, that is God’s choice.
This normal family obeys the customs of women walking together and men walking together. One day-journey of re-uniting led Joseph and Mary to realize that their child did not associate with either group. He prefers the temple atmosphere and the total dedication to studying and expanding the Torah-Law in Jerusalem. Again, this child is beyond gender-divides. He is God’s child, the savior of all humanity on this textual bridge announcing his public ministry. This family is on its Exodus of love of God. We remember all the troubles in Mary’s life since the coming of the angel Gabriel. We remember the troubles of Joseph who had to grapple with these unpleasant events around his sweetheart’s life. Now we see them anguished by the Way of their Son. They are out seeking the constitution of a new large family of God from the natural feelings for family life: missing each other, communicating thoughts and feelings, sharing everything. In this natural environment any child learns from parents; he or she obeys them. Scripture teaches that this obedience does not take away in any sense the freedom and authentic God-given personality of the child. True education belongs to parents who are called to pass on the values they judge most authentic, the values of love, and the values of mutual concerns.
The book of Sirach and the Colossian epistle confirm this by encouraging family members to honor each other. Children in particular are encouraged to revere their parents who stand as God’s representatives. A sinless family in this light is a family where mutual respect is the rule of love. In other words, there is no way of loving and serving God (except for unusual/exceptional graces of conversion through healing), unless we experience good/just family life. Many adults cannot value paternal imagery because they have not touched the kindness of a human father. Likewise, it is hard to value motherhood if you have never perceived the anguished heart of a tender mother who cares about what happens to you. Paul likewise says to the Colossians, that family relations are better when ruled by forgiveness, the “bond of perfection”. Holiness in a family consists simply in being thankful for one another and swift to forgive one another. Then he gives the three-part guideline for action towards each other: subordination, love and compassionate care. When husband and wife have the peace of Christ in their hearts these attitudes are its fruit. Wild human nature cannot teach subordination without inviting for sinful domination and oppression. But love wishes to submit to every wish of the beloved. This wisdom is difficult to explain or teach. In following the order current society gives, the joy of being married will come from the enjoyment of loving the other person for who he or she is and for whom he or she is not yet as far as my knowledge goes. I do not know of anyone who has figured out what the order of society and family is in our days as regards this teaching from the world of Pauline spirituality. Is there a need of subordination and of love the way Paul understands them, or do we just live by contract of self-interests colored by the interests of the other just as one condition to fulfill our own dreams and pursuits of happiness?
Jesus, Mary and Joseph are seen as ‘forgiving’ each other and living according to the family code of their nation and religion. Jesus naturally obeys his parents and they watch over his natural and grace-filled growth. Yet God is the Father and Lord of all, singularly present in Jesus.
(2) The Unique personality of Jesus the normal man
Following the Exodus motive, Jesus goes to Jerusalem accompanying his parents for the first time. But for the last time, he will be accompanied by his disciples. His Father’s House, his heavenly family is a ‘city of peace’ not built by human hands but by the word of God. In the exact same way as he stays in Jerusalem for the first time, he will stay there for the last time, giving appointment to his disciples in the ‘Galilee of the dispersion’ for their restoration as a new people of God. In that sense, Jesus is presenting himself as a unique human character radically marked by God’s grace. He is God’s own Son. Seeing how these saintly people of his human family struggle to gradually understand who he was, we know that any true association with Jesus will lead us to experiences that we could not dream about on our own.
This unique character of Jesus responds to the call of the wisdom of Sirach, “My son, take care of your father when he is old,” by the place Mary and Joseph occupy in the Church’s piety, that is the earthly special home of Jesus to which Mary and Joseph eminently belong. We honor them as he honors them in heaven. If we keep doing so, the three of them will indeed teach us what Paul calls “heartfelt compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.” Jesus reveals his divinity to those who have a heart capable of love; that means all humanity. However, he wants to honor the Exodus tradition by encountering us on our way of searching for the truth. This truth today is, “Where is Jesus our Son?” Am I personally interested in knowing more about Jesus, in wanting him close to me? Do I feel when he seems distant from me? Do I take action to close the gap to the best of my ability? For us sinners, Mary and Joseph express the act of repentance, of return to Jesus when we lose sight of him due to our sin. We cannot go our own way without his unique character on us. Although we are adults and doing the works of charity, we constantly need the instructions and presence of the Lord in all that we do. There is no ‘absolute point’ coming of age in the kingdom of God except growing in love, and growing in love increases the desire to be with the beloved. In being close to the beloved, we learn that we can never know him or her or them completely. Every day is a new day with them. More so is it with Jesus our Lord. He instructs us by reminding us that he is the “Son of God,” or by showing us a particular instance of what it means to be God’s Son. We are filled with gratitude by belonging to the family of Jesus Christ in the Church, and we sing to God “psalms, hymns and spiritual songs” of praise for knowing about these things.
(3) The extended Family of Jesus
Finding Jesus in what matters to Him is becoming a member of his family. Does he not say, “the one who listens to my words and puts them in practice is father/mother/brother/sister to me”? Mary and Joseph, the family of Jesus according to the flesh did also the work of faith in Christ the Lord by seeking his heart, and by giving him to his broader mission. As we see in today’s gospel, their hearts were filled with anxiety (as normal parents experience it), about him. They put their trust in God whose kingdom is the sole comfort of the mother in the case of a son like Jesus. By doing the natural things parents do, they grew into the spiritual family of their Son who is also their Lord and God. What do we learn from their example? Do what is our immediate duty and responsibility to the things of our current life. We value order in society and relationships on various levels. We care about our natural family, we live by the common piety of the Church, particularly the Eucharist. And we let our hearts question what we do by increasing attention to what the Lord is saying, and the ever new ways in which he is communicating his divinity to us. These ways of the Lord are often too ‘natural’ for unprepared hearts to perceive as divine. In that sense Mary and Joseph who experience the coming of the Lord into the flesh were not better prepared than we who believe today. They had the love needed to accept to be transformed by the mystery of God come close. As family of God, the Church presents to us the mystery of God’s incarnation in ways that sound sometimes incredibly simplistic to sophisticated minds, or too unlikely for the skeptical. But for the one who has faith (neither stupidity nor scientism), “nothing will be impossible to God,” and this is not mindless credulity as we can see in Mary who keeps searching for the deeper meaning of the words of the angel when her son grows up. We grow up with the evolutions of our world in science, technology and various awareness-levels of our common heritage. This evolution makes our faith even more viable, for it is simply the beauty of love made real in concrete relations of respect to the knowledge of others and respect to the mystery of others, made in God’s image, after the Only Son.
Conclusion: Let us pray brothers and sisters that our hearts remain open to the refreshing newness of God’s revelation of his presence to us through the various means and instances of our journeys of faith, and our natural journeys of life. All is from God who has united us to Christ, to form a family of God-lovers and lovers of his Peace. The introductory terms of ‘natural’ and revelation come together for one who loves truly, for that person will see what ‘natural’ eyes cannot perceived; This is so because love reveals the orderly nature of God who is Love.